Assumptions = Ass-u-me

Assumptions = Ass-u-me

There is no doubt about it – in the absence of facts, humans make assumptions. What’s more, we assume the negative more often than not. Have you ever convinced yourself someone did something for a particular reason, only to find out you were completely wrong? I know I have.  I remember the time I assumed a…

But what can you control?

But what can you control?

How often do you ask yourself “what’s within my control?” If you find yourself frustrated and stressed-out often, you might want to start asking yourself that question more routinely. As humans (and you can multiply this for leader-humans), we tend to spend a whole lot of time and energy focused on things beyond our control….

Rethinking What’s Possible

Rethinking What’s Possible

The first half of this year has given us a plethora of reasons to reconsider what’s possible. What’s possible at work, at home, in our communities, our nation, our world. It has necessitated swift pivots, radical change, and the courage to do things in ways we have never done them before. 2020 is also serving as…

Be like Einstein: Be present now

Be like Einstein: Be present now

One of the hardest things for us humans to do is bring from the past only what is beneficial for us in the present. It has been said history is the best predictor of the future. I’ve said it many times myself – because it’s often true. Particularly in times of stress, we go on…

Three Tips for Building Trust

Three Tips for Building Trust

As a leader, if it seems you are constantly putting out fires and distracted from your priorities, evaluating the current level of trust amongst your team would be a worthwhile exercise. While you’re thinking about this, it may also behoove you to assess your relationships with your peers, boss and other executives. If you are…

Lose the “should” and become a stronger leader

Lose the “should” and become a stronger leader

We are one month into 2019, and I have a new challenge for you: Lose your “should”. When working on my Master Certification in Executive Coaching, I learned how impactful it is for a client to shift from “should” to a definitive action statement. The definitive statement may be “I will” or “I won’t”, it…

One Thing to Help You Sail Through The Season

One Thing to Help You Sail Through The Season

I write on Mondays. At least I intend to write on Mondays. However, it’s five-o’clock and I’m just now putting my first words to paper. I’ve been wrestling with what to write about, this Thanksgiving week. We all need to take time to feel gratitude and take note of what we are thankful for, of course. I…

Veterans, thank you! #NEVERFORGET

Veterans, thank you! #NEVERFORGET

Did you know Veterans Day coincides with holidays in other countries, like Armistice Day in France, and Remembrance Day in the UK? Each celebrates the official end of WWI, and the time major hostilities ended: The 11th hour, of the 11th day, of the 11th month, 1918. In the U.S., Veterans Day was originally also known as Armistice Day, but at the urging…

Satisfied or Dissatisfied? One tip for purposeful thinking

Satisfied or Dissatisfied? One tip for purposeful thinking

How are you feeling today? Let’s get more specific: How are you feeling right now? Becoming acutely aware of how you feel is the first step towards purposeful thinking. What is meant by purposeful thinking? Why should you be interested? So glad you asked! Thinking purposefully means thinking for optimal experiences and results.  You’ve probably heard Henry Ford’s famous quote “Whether you…

PSYCHOLOGICAL SAFETY.  a must for high-performing teams

PSYCHOLOGICAL SAFETY. a must for high-performing teams

Do you know what high-performing teams have in common? Psychological safety. That’s right! In fact, GOOGLE recently completed a massive two-year study on team performance, wherein they concluded psychological safety is the one common denominator for high performing teams. As a professional who spends her days working with leaders and teams to reduce conflict, increase…

HOW TO ENJOY THE RIDE (through the holidays)

HOW TO ENJOY THE RIDE (through the holidays)

For the last few minutes I’ve been staring out the windshield (as a passenger), down a straight and desolate stretch of highway 441, considering what to write about. It’s December 17, and if you’ve been out on the roads, you know the hustle and bustle is in full swing! This time of year it’s easy…

FOUR TIPS FOR DE-ESCALATING CONFLICT

FOUR TIPS FOR DE-ESCALATING CONFLICT

We all have conflict.  Sometimes it is internal. Sometimes it is between us and someone else. Sometimes we are a third party to conflict happening between others.  Regardless of its origin, we are human and we experience conflict. When I meet people out and about, and they learn what I do, they often tell me…