Want more success? Stop playing the victim

Want more success? Stop playing the victim

This week I have an oh-so-critical message for you: You are not a victim. If you truly want to be more successful with (fill in blank) it is time for you to start owning your results. If you don’t like them, or would like to improve on them, you must make changes with regard to your own thoughts, words, and actions. Did you get that? YOU must make changes; not anyone else, you.

One of my favorite quotes is attributed to Albert Einstein:

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result.”

That’s what humans do, you know? We pine away, or worse we moan and groan, over something we want or even expect, but aren’t willing to put forth the effort required to achieve.

What have you wanted, but still don’t have?

  • More success at work?
  • A smaller number on the scale?
  • Closer friendships?
  • A new job/new career?
  • More peace/ less stress?

It doesn’t matter what you want, need, or expect, I promise “it” will not happen if you continue to do the same things and expect a different result. Understand? If YOU continue to do the same things, you will get the same results.

One critical step in achievement is to stop playing the victim role. If you truly want a new result, figure out what you can do differently that is likely to have a positive affect, and start doing it. The point here is so simple, yet humans are SO resistant to it. Why? Because it is much easier to blame our results some one else – no matter how ineffective that tactic is.

The best thing you can do for yourself is accept the fact that your own choices- your thoughts, words and actions – create 99% of your results in life. In this moment, consider yourself empowered to make great changes, create new habits, and start achieving the things that are in the best interest of you and all impacted. All you need to do is take responsibility, do a little constructive planning, and get going.

Right here, right now, stop blaming your past, your spouse, your boss, your sister, your co-worker, your parents, or whomever else you have made responsible for your results. You are only a victim of your past if you continue to choose to be.

Before you get upset or try and prove me wrong, allow me to say this: I know all-too-well there are tragic things that occur in life wherein we become instant victims. Things happen suddenly and outside of our control, and we need to take the time and get the professional assistance necessary to heal physically and emotionally from those circumstances. But, as so many have proven throughout history, who and what we become in the aftermath of tragic circumstances is determined by our own choices.

If you have a repetitive scenario in your life that falls short compared to your ideal, here are your key take-aways for today:

  1. You are the common denominator.
  2. Doing the same things and expecting different results is the definition of insanity.
  3. You are not a victim.

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